"A must for individuals who make their living selling."
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THE HARD TRUTH ABOUT SOFT-SELLING
Restoring Pride & Purpose to the Sales Profession

THE HARD TRUTH ABOUT SOFT-SELLING

Own It Today

Preface
Table of Contents

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Preface

• In an eagerly anticipated speech, a well-known CEO advises a convention audience of senior managers, “the overwhelming majority of ethics problems I’ve had to deal with come from people who talk about how much integrity they have. In our company, that’s a red flag.”

• The author of a new sales book exhorts salespeople to sincerely care about their customers. Quoting venerable sales sage, Zig Ziglar, he writes: “people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” The author’s new book is: The Science of Influence: How to Get Anyone to Say YES in 8 Minutes or Less.

• In an effort to “elevate the ethical behavior of salespeople” a motivational speaker known for his impassioned speeches on the importance of principled selling offers an on-line Sales Ethics Checklist. The checklist was plagiarized from another website.

Values. Principles. Integrity. Virtues. Ethically, we live in an ironic age. U.S. president, Bill Clinton’s wily assault on truth and meaning, Michael Moore’s political bias artlessly touted as “documentary filmmaking” and high-minded mission statements brightening the hallways of organizations like Arthur Anderson and Enron have made people necessarily wary ? if not cynical. In a sense, we seem to be drifting relentlessly downwards to, “a looser more skeptical relationship with the truth” (Stengel, 2000, p. 13).


Unspoken wariness is bound to flourish when the concept of truth itself becomes corrupted into just another flashy commercial offering, like “body language”, to be colorfully presented by lavishly paid speakers at sales conventions (where copies of the their presentations, slickly packaged into four gospel-like “modules”, always seem to be conveniently available for purchase at the back of the auditorium).
Salespeople today are routinely indoctrinated in the black art of projecting the appearance of trust, warmth, sincerity and caring. The “sincerity industry” relentlessly pitches integrity and principles as if they were commodities and seems unmindful (and unbothered) by the inherent irony in training people to act sincere. Salespeople have understandably forgotten to ask: “what is it about acting sincere that makes me sincere?”

The driving purpose behind this book is to answer that question. The answer was, is and always will be: “nothing”. Regardless of your sales setting, the presentational style you use, or the number of times buzzwords like “trust” “empathy” and “empowerment” are factored into your sales presentations, trustworthiness remains an ethical ideal grounded in honorable behavior. The formula has not changed. Honorable behavior still requires honorable intent.

No approach to selling has a monopoly on virtue. So it is not for us to favor one method while rejecting others. That is not our purpose. Doing so would only serve to liberate salespeople from one selling caste only to replace it with another. That said, we have not been reticent to charbroil those sales gurus who’s proprietary preachments rant that salespeople who disagree with them are unprofessional, and as an afterthought, probably doomed to hell.

Selling is not inherently dishonest and salespeople need not disguise or apologize for their once-proud profession. Selling is no more or less honorable than any other profession and surely much more honorable than some. Like other professions, when selling is practiced with honor and skill, it does not require high-minded rhetoric, transparent excuses or ethical pretenses to be effective. Hopefully the pages that follow will provoke thoughtful discussion among sales professionals about the moral legitimacy of what they do and challenge their need to pretend to be doing anything other than selling.

We hope you enjoy reading this book. It is not a sales makeover and does not require you to change either your personality or your principles. The only prerequisites are an open mind and an inquisitive spirit.


George W. Dudley.
Behavioral Sciences Research Press

John (Jeff) F. Tanner
Center for Professional Selling
Baylor University

 

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